Stress on Children’s Development

Neglect is a passive form of abuse in which the perpetrator is responsible to provide care for a victim who is unable to care for oneself, but fails to provide adequate care to meet the victim's needs, thereby resulting in the victim's demise.

My godson (John) is 8 years old.  His mother (Mary Ann) recently started dating this guy (Earl) and they spend a lot of time together. John have communicated to me that his mother doesn’t spend time with him as she did before she started dating Earl.  I observed the situation and discover that John is telling the truth.  John’s mother is always going away on the weekend with Earl.  Mary Ann never incorporates John with any activities that she and Earl are doing.  John feels as if he is not love by his mother and he feels as if Earl doesn’t like him.  John reaches out to me for love.  Whenever my kids and I go out to eat dinner and to the movies, I always invite John to come along.  John spends a lot of time at my house.  He hates being at home with his mother, especially when Earl is there. John’s mother is my friend and I don’t know how to approach her without making her upset. John is very stressed from the situation.  His grades are dropping and his self esteem is very low.  I spend a lot of time with him by helping him with his homework, talking to him about his friends and encourage him to do his best in life.

BREASTFEEDING IN INDONESIA

A new law has been passed that stipulates all babies should be exclusive breastfed for the first six months of life in Indonesia.  Women are provided with three months of paid maternity leave.  The new law detailed steps on how companies must provide faculties for nursing mother to breastfeed as well as to pump and store their breast milk.

For more information, please visit:

http://www.soschildrensvillages.org.uk/charity-news/archive/2010/11/indonesia-introduces-breastfeeding-law

Childbirth––In Your Life and Around the World

A PERSONAL BIRTHING EXPERIENCE

I remember when I gave birth to my first child.  I was 21 years old and I was single.  My family was very supportive, especially my mother.  I was taught by the best on how to be a great mother. My mother was there with me from the 1^st contraction through the delivery of my daughter.  I had my daughter  natural without any pain medicine. When my daughter was placed on my stomach, I looked at my baby and tears begin to form.  I was very happy and knew with the help of my mother, my daughter would receive the proper care.  I consider the birth to be successful.  I learned a lot from the child birth class and from my mother and grandmother.  I chose this birth because it was very special to me especially with it being my first experience.  I think it is extremely important to receive proper prenatal care and moral support from your family to make the delivery good.

The difference of birth between the United States and The Netherlands

United States (American)	Netherlands (Dutch)
Expected mother see an Obstetrician  once a month for the 1st and 2nd trimester and once every week in the 3rd trimester	Expected Moms will only see a doctor if there are complication.
Births are delivered at the hospital by a midwife or doctor	Most births are delivered at home by a midwife.  Expected mothers are required to pick up a kraampakket that include all of the medical supplies necessary for home birth.
Expected mother can go to the hospital whenever they need to .	Expected mothers must get approval by the midwife before going to the hospital for labor and delivery.
Epidural are given if requested by the mother at anytime	Epidurals are given if it's convenient for the anesthesiologist schedule.  Natural birth is the vast majority of Dutch women.
Infants will remain in the hospital for 1 to 2 days.	Infants can go home within 2 hours after delivery if there are no complications.
A nurse  will be available by phone  if needed to answer any questions	A nurse will go to the home to provide medical care, clean the home, cook and provide parenting skills.